Archive for the Family Category

Burying the Hatchet

Posted in Christianity, Family, Religion on November 17, 2008 by Scott

Those of you who have been reading for awhile know we’re not big fans of Ed Young, Jr. (more here).  But after reading about Pastor Young’s latest challenge, we’re ready to bury the hatchet.

“Marriage is the only right place for sex,” says Ed Young, senior pastor of Grapevine’s nondenominational Fellowship Church. So he’s encouraging married couples to celebrate by having sex every day for a week starting Sunday.

Preach on, Pastor Young!

  • Sex is the Superglue…
  • Whining into whoopie…
  • One of the greatest Thanksgivings ever…
  • Practice what you preach…

“I think it’s one of the greatest things you can do for your kids because so goes the marriage, so goes the family,” said Young.

So, if you can’t do it for yourselves, at least do it for your kids.

How can we stay mad at this guy?


The Most Beautiful Girl in the World

Posted in Family, God on September 24, 2008 by Scott

For years I worried that having a child would radically change my lifestyle.

Life was good – beautiful wife, perfect house, great job, golf three times a week. Why would I want to mess that up?

All that changed seven years ago today.  Just thirteen days after the  09/11 attacks, the most beautiful girl in the world was born.

Suddenly when the guys would go golfing, I found myself declining so I could go home and spend time with her.  Instead of hanging with friends, I became a frequent visitor to Babys-R-Us and Target.

I am still surprised at all of the changes our family has gone through.  Those things that once seemed important are now long forgotten. What an awesome feeling to know that God has entrusted us to raise one of his kids.

In spite of my own selfishness, my life has been radically changed forever, by the most beautiful girl in the world.

Happy Birthday Kennedy!

The Real Threat to Marriage

Posted in Church, Faith, Family, God, Jesus, Relationships, Religion on September 22, 2008 by Scott

Results from a recent survey on marriage:

  • 88% said they were happy or reasonably content in their marriages.
  • 56% would definitely marry the same person again.
  • What happened to the 32%? Guess they’re “happy/content,” but would choose someone else next time.
  • 30% admitted that they remain married either because of financial reasons or because “it’s too much trouble to get out.”
  • Too much trouble?  A wedding cost thousands of dollars, but you can get a divorce for $50. Maybe we should make it more difficult to get married.
  • Less than 25% of men named households chores as a source of friction, as opposed to 31% of women.
  • 33% of women don’t have sex more because they are tired.
  • Maybe the women are tired from doing the chores.
  • 31% have sex less than once a month.
  • 60% of men said they don’t have sex enough.
  • 48% of men don’t have sex more often because their spouse isn’t interested.
  • Alright, we admit we only put this one in here in case our wives read this.
  • 24% have kept an important secret from their spouse.
  • 31% have discovered that their spouse kept an important secret from them.

Albert Mohler says this about marriage:

The greater tragedy is the failure of Christians to take marriage seriously. According to the Bible, marriage is not only designed by the Creator as an arena for human happiness and the continuation of the human race–it is also the arena of God’s glory, where the delights and disciplines of marriage point to the purpose for which human beings were made.

Marriage is about our happiness, our holiness, and our wholeness–but it is supremely about the glory of God. When marriage is entered into rightly, when marriage vows are kept with purity, when all the goods of marriage are enjoyed in their proper place–God is glorified.

We keep talking about the external threats to marriage and family, but the biggest threat might be staring back at us in the mirror every day.

Remembering Dad

Posted in Church, Family, Religion on June 13, 2008 by Scott

It was 26 years ago that my father passed away.  As my wife will tell you, there aren’t many things that will get me choked up, but this clip gets me every time.

I would trade almost anything for one more chance to play catch with my Dad.

There are so many things that I wish I could say to him or change so many stupid things I did. But I can’t.  Maybe someday.

If your Dad is around this weekend, take some time to play a little catch, talk about the latest book you read, give him a hug…maybe even ask him to go to church with you.

Trust me…some day you’ll be glad you did. 


With Hope

Posted in Faith, Family on May 23, 2008 by Scott

What a tragic week for Steven Curtis Chapman and his family. Just ten days ago Maria celebrated her 5th birthday.

He wrote this for his home town after the shootings in Paducah, KY in 1998. So as we embrace our children tonight and those we love, may we remember as we let go, we turn them over to a merciful God.

God is good…

This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you’ve gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but …

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
‘Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
‘Cause we believe with hope
(There’s a place by God’s grace)
There’s a place where we’ll see your face again
We’ll see your face again

And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God’s plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father’s smile and say well done
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
‘Cause now you’re home
And now you’re free, and …

We have this hope as an anchor
‘Cause we believe that everything
God promised us is true, so …

So we can cry with hope
And say goodbye with hope

We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope

Banning Gay Marriage

Posted in Blogs, Christianity, Family, God, Marriage, Relationships with tags , on May 21, 2008 by Scott

I read a post at Gay Religion regarding California churches and their response to a 4-3 decision in the state to allow legal same sex unions…perhaps also known as marriage.

…As a side note, I’ve never understood the distinction between Gay and Lesbian…obviously male and female, so there’s no discrimination…not sure how one is gender specific…seems ironic.

So as the churches decide whether to allow these couples to wed or not to wed in their buildings based on biblical reasons…God’s law versus man’s law…marriage as an instrument of God to make us more holy, continues to erode.

Not because of these types of laws but because of the people who are supposed to be doing it God’s way don’t. Divorce, and physical and emotional adultery are just as prevalent in “Christian marriages”, so the reality is we need to remove the plank from our own eye.

The biggest threat to God’s plan for marriage is us…the level of mediocrity in Christian marriages is what is tearing down what God put together…half the people walking through our churches are in nothing more than a civil union…they don’t want a Christ-centered marriage…they want a tax deduction…but we blame homosexuals for wanting the same thing under the pretext of God.

We need to be faithful to our first mission field…our marriages…you think God blesses something else we might do when we are neglecting our marriage…maybe…maybe not.

As my former pastor would say, “you’re not in love with her anymore…so…learn how to love her again.”

People often think the great commission is to go and make disciples…I contend it was to love one another…and that starts with our spouses…a different kind of love but one that allows you to love others in security and with great joy.

You want to change marriage in this world…start with the image in the mirror…how about that.

Am I My Brothers Keeper

Posted in Christianity, Church, Culture, Faith, Family, Relationships with tags , on May 17, 2008 by Scott

I heard Francis Chan recently tell a story about his church. A former gang member in LA came to Christ at Cornerstone and began his walk with the Lord. A short while later he decided to leave the church.

He told the pastors that he thought it would be like a gang…they’d have each other’s backs…they’d always be together. Church isn’t like that.

Francis said Christ did not die for the church as it is today…somethings wrong.

Are you your brother’s keeper?